The dog chewed up my sketch book.

At least you're back on Plime.

I have to wait another 12 days before Mrs. Rambler arrives here for her next visit to Ghana.

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At that time, I'll probably be as cheerful as Mr. Lolcat Fafatar here!

I hate TP's band. There I said it.

When I met him, he was an instructor at the Y, teaching martial arts. The Y went out of business here and he had a dojo for a while and now teaches out our basement for private lessons of children who were in his Y class. (one kid is almost graduated and going for his blackbelt)

I used to love to watch him teach and compete. The man is fierce. My kids used to love to tag along in class with him as well.....I loved to go as well. It is something that is interesting to me. The band, loud music and crowds is NOT interesting to me.

Karate


Now he is in a band. Used to play in seedy dives. Now at least he is playing where there is food served. He talks about the band stuff ALL.THE.TIME. I do not like the music.

Still, I try to support him, but there has to be more than the The Band to talk about.

I took a day off work last month to WATCH him play and sat with my brother the whole time, TP never came and sat with us during down time. He said he forgot that he had family there (as I am usually NOT there) and that he is always nervous and smoking, running in and out. I walked over to him at the end of the night and asked if he was pissed at me, as I took a freaking vacation day to watch him play and he didn't spend ANY time with me, even when other bands were on. He was back in the lounge with other bands. I shant take off again.

I listen to him crab about hauling his drum set from our basement to the van to haul to a gig...and says he suprised me or the kids don't help him carry it, because it is cold outside, etc.

Whenever we meet new people, (like we got a quote on new windows this week) he introduces himself as a MUSICIAN. He is a civil engineer and surveyor. He works for the county, just like I do.

I swear I will eat my words if we ever get that tour bus, but this band thing is weighing on my last nerve.

Yesterday I found out he blew 150.00 on a headset/microphone. We have an agreement where we are allowed to spend 50 bucks without consulting each other, anything above that requires a pow wow. He has broken that rule twice, both for band things. It's his money, on his card...but we need brakes for my van. It's due in 500 miles.

(The last thing I spent on myself was in 2004....230 for round trip to San Fran...and we weren't married)

I have worked hard my entire life and am working EMS again, so I can get thru school ON my own and pay my way. I even did not make a commitment on that until I talked to him, yet, I do not get the same consideration.

He crabs about my lack of time for social things as I am going to school and working every hour I can get, (bettering myself) yet, it is ok for him to be gone 2 nites a week for practice and gigs.

I AM GOING TO EXPLODE! Everything I do, buy or go without is for the benefit of this household. I do not get the same out of my partner.

[Edit:] It occurred to me that my comment could be construed as whiny or complain-y, and so I retract it.

I'm currently in a normally awesome cafe in Canmore, and I can't believe how many people have little spawn running around without discipline, especially the little blonde monster who just stole my coffee cup.

Why is it that these people have trained their dogs better than their children?

Because there are laws that allow my dog to be put down if it bites someone, even if they provoked him into aggression. I'm ACCOUNTABLE for my dog, but somehow, parents are all too often NOT seen as accountable for the public behavior of their offspring.

which would be ironic given the comment itself.

Um yeah...I work at night and the neighbors behind me always let their dogs out and leave them outside. So yeah, the dogs bark the whole f**kin time. I need sleep!! They wake me up every day. I have a dog and she doesn't bark 24/7!! When my dog barks, that means shes done with her buisness and I let her back in. I cannot take this anymore!! If they do it one more time, I'm calling animal control.

Yep, I run into the same thing. I used to work nites and it is challenging to sleep during the day...When my dogs bark and our outside I immediately usher them in the house, no matter if it is 2:30 pm or early am/evening. I try to be respectful of my neighbors no matter what the time.

I had neighbors behind us that let their dogs bark ALL NITE LONG. Omg. It used to wake me up and I called the police all the time. I think they finally moved. I felt bad for the dogs, who were obviously unhappy.

Sleep with earplugs. It helps a bit.

I just came back from the mall. My sister's getting married in May and it's going to be a civil union at some beach resort and we're going to be there a whole week. Now, because I'm one of them kooky pale kids, I don't own a bathing suit so I decided today to go shop for one. Here comes the rant:

What the f**k is wrong with bathing suit makers? You have 984509684568905 f**king tiny bikinis and in the f**king miracle that you find a nice looking tankini (that doesn't have neon f**king flowers on it) and a boyshort type bottom... THEY DON'T HAVE YOUR SIZE! why? because fat people aren't allowed to go in the water. f**k you! I'm a big, curvy, fattilicious b***h and I'm damn proud, and with that pride I'd like to be able to wear a nice bathing suit. But XL is not XL. My f**king tits spill out of XL. I'm a f**king F CUP! So what to do? You leave the mall and go to Target because you know that's probably the only place you'll be able to find a plus size section that doesn't sell grandma looking bathing suits with built in moomoo skirts...... only to try on a 1X bathing suit to find that the bottom fits you like a goddamn tent but it's the only thing that holds your boobs in. GAH f**kING DAMMIT! -.-

So what am I going to do for this wedding? I hate layne bryant, don't f**king suggest that store, it's like overpriced career older woman s**t. And yes I can just try to get something online, only it's a bathing suit and you can't return it if it doesn't fit. *kicks random s**t*

GAH!

*breathes*

thank you.

/hugs! We have a store called The Sock Shoppe and they have ALL sizes that are not for old people!! I'm sorry you have to deal with that s**t. You can't switch out the bottoms with the top of the bathingsuit? I always did. Good luck in finding a bathingsuit.

Take a deep breath. It's going to be okay.

If you can find a store/catalogue that lets you mix and match tops and bottoms, I recommend it. I know of a few places here, but I doubt you'd want to come all the way to Vancouver to find a swimsuit.

Most of my swimsuits are mixed/matched ones; I have brown bottoms that match great with a white or pink top.. it's also a way of ensuring your swimsuit is unique!

I also hate how stores seem to only carry itsy-bitsy teeny weenie bikinis. While I'm no prude, I do like my clothes to be a bit modest!

B(ikini)ump

Is that a rhetorical question, or would you like me to answer?

I have a very similar problem. I need tankinis too, and am different sizes on top and bottom. It is a b***h. But, like others have said, you should try mixing tankinis.
I had to go shopping for some last August for a holiday, and actually could not find any to fit me. One thing I did use on the beach is those tops that surfers wear. They're protection from the sun, and are made to be worn in the water. They get slightly see through, but a bikini top underneath hides your modesty. I found the bikini top(Which I would never normally wear) was enough to just spare my blushes, as I didn't need it for support or anything, but I'm not an F-cup so I'm not sure if it would work for you. The tops are really cool, with some lovely designs. I got mine from Voodoo Dolls, and a friend of mine got hers from Roxy, but I'm sure all "surfer" brands will have them.

Honestly, an answer would be great. I just don't understand people here. I think it's because they think that any amount of discipline will hurt their kid.

Show them all - SWIM NAKED!

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Oy. I feel for you, I really do. For what it's worth, there's a special place in heaven for musician's wives. My girlfriend HATES- and I mean LOATHES- all the things that surround the band scene. There's only so many times you can see a the same band play the same songs.

Never confuse the stage with reality. If it becomes his reality, it can take him down hard when it all goes away, because it only lasts as long as your last note played.

I listened- This seems like a band that loves music. They're not going to get a bus just yet, but don't be surprised if they've talked about buying one and going on the road.
It's going to have to run it's course. It might even take your marriage down, it's that alluring. In a perfect world, this band will implode as most bands do, and he'll find some weekend warriors who want to gig, drink a few beers and play the bar scene.
Ride it out.