This is true, but considering it is only protection free sex that is causing the problem, I imagine something could be worked out.

Now if it were about a woman who never desired her husband sexually, or a husband who needed sex all the time I can see this being a real issue, but at it stands, I don't this will cause huge rifts between them (or at least I hope not).

Read Kero's post...

I definitly agree with "getting out". Drogue was right to get out. I didn't disagree, just thought it was shallow, and sad quite frankly.
I could never have an ill thought or a "wedge", towards my wife over sexual issues. I love her unconditionally.

...even if her vagina fell off.

Not much information on the article.

I wanna know how old they are and if this is the only man she was ever with.

The following is not for the faint of heart. We all have sex, correct?

They have not included any details of their sex life. Not that I blame them. But, then again, they don't have problems admitting this problem. Sooooo.....

Was this the only man she ever dated?

And they used condoms for a whole two yrs? Geezus. When I was in stable relationships, engagments and in a monogamus dating relationships, the condoms were out the window and I was on the pill.

Are condoms the norm for monogamous birth control options full time? That blows my mind. They did that for TWO YEARS!?!?

Furthermore, if she was making grilled cheese, was she using a condom with that?

If so, wow.

If not, she certainly could have been exposed to pre-ejactulatory fluid, prior to finishing the grilled cheese. Not sure if that makes a difference down south, just saying, it is exposure none the less.

I just don't buy it.

I figure we all draw our percentages every day. Maybe what I said did seem shallow. And it was a sad decision, across more areas than I discussed.

The decision was mine. But I was not the only one in the chain.

What about the things none of us said? Which no one really knows about?

And 5%? That doesn't seem much of an incentive.



If you have unconditional love in your life, then please live in it, and wildly so!

But not every one is so lucky all the time.

-D

Hers is not a trait that evolution can select for : /

There are lots of medical reasons why one wouldn't be able to take birth control pills though, not saying that is the case with this couple, just something to consider.

Agreed. But...

There are many other options. Iud, Diapraghm, to mention a few.

It just seems peculiar to me.

Well that sucks for her and him, looks like condoms for the rest of their marriage.

Guess you have to try before you... commit.

The article says she is allergic to her husband's seminal plasma, which is actually everything in ejaculate BUT the sperm.

Well in that case, why not try in vitro? Cost?

And why is he inconsiderate and having condom free sex with his wife and causing her pain?

I've never found that I'm allergic to dogmen.

In fact, I can't say I've ever seen one...I guess they're only out on the full moon.

Wow, you guys really know your sex. I'm impressed.*spurt*

Allergic to sperm? I find that hard to swallow.

Yeah, but I think in order to get into a relationship in the first place one has to be a little shallow. You can only love someone based on what they appear to be to you, you can never read someone's mind. I think love through action usually starts with friendship, but love through attraction is important too. My relationships have a habit of being too cerebral (I'll choose a good friend with a character I think is moral, etc.), so I never got really attached to someone until I went against my logical choices and chose someone based on my gut attraction. It ended as disastrously as I knew it would, but I can say I truly loved them, nothing I could say for the others.

Oh, and good for them for adopting. So many kids need to be adopted anyway. I think I'm hoping too much that they'll adopt an older child, though. Those kids get left behind too often.

Nor could I. But... I wonder how far the relationship between my wife and I would have went if we were unable to make love for some reason in the beginning stages of our relationship.

If my wife's vagina fell off, I'd still be by her side.

But if I had just met her and her vagina had fallen off, I don't think I would have pursued the relationship to the same ends... We'd be friends but likely not a couple.

Shallow? Perhaps. But also necessary. If the relationship is going to be long term you need to make sure that there are things you can deal with down the road. For me, the ability to procreat was one of the things I was seeking in a mate. Had her vagina fallen off in the first few weeks that I met her I don't think I'd have continued with the relationship in the capacity of seeking love.