I totally agree with this. I have friends who fight to the death on a daily basis. I feel for their little baby. Sad.

I thought this was ridiculous, but my wife didn't, so I told her she was nut's, than she said...

It is nice, but arguments can and will happen in front of kids. The smart thing to do is make sure neither person is condescending or vicious during the argument; it may be healthy to learn that adults can solve disagreements without resorting to put downs and violence.

I don’t remember ever seeing my parents fight…I’m sure there was bickering..but nothing I can remember. I found out later..once I was in my 20s and my mother had passed..that my Dad had an affair at some point. I had no clue how close to divorce they where..but my mother forgave him and life went on…we (my sister and I) had no clue! We grew up knowing we were loved..and that all was secure around us.

They also apparently argued about how hard my father was on me compared to my sister..it was his way of making me into the man he wanted me to be. Now had I known they fought over that I would probably have used it to my advantage whenever he was making things “hard for me” and not became the strong person I am today.

Anyway…More than just the “bickering in front of children” I’ve seen a seen some scary patterns in the society growing around me. At an ELEMENTARY SCHOOL parent’s meeting night for new students there were SEVERAL parents..barely adults themselves..yelling profanities and insults at each other AND their kids like it was nothing. Instead of hearing things like: “Joey…stop that now! You need to sit down!” ..it was..”Joey, you stupid s**t! Drop that and sit your ass down!” When did we as a society stop policing our language and mannerism in front of our children? Then we wonder why kids have no respect for the police or other adults and “talk back” to them all the time! It is what they were brought up to think is normal and acceptable behavior!!!!

Young parents these days have no understanding how much their behavior subconsciously affects their children’s development. I’m actually glad that I just had my first child…at age 35. Now the challenge is finding her a place to grow up that hasn’t been corrupted by the stupidity of others.

psh. parents not arguing in front of their kids leads to a unreal view of marriage. My dad's parents never fought in front of him and he just couldn't grasp the idea of a husband and wife fighting. even now, he can't sit through an argument and would rather just walk off and leave, which leaves my mom in a worse state and very few things gets resolved.

on the other hand, I always seen my parents fighting, and tried to jump in. ahh, those family debates. good fun. never malicious, tho. The push has always been for making intelligent points rather than insulting others. I'd consider my family pretty close.
and I agree with you, Fizz, parents swearing at their kids is both inappropriate and irresponsible. I guess I was lucky. Sure my parents got angry, but it was never demeaning and the only insults were in korean. and insulting in foreign languages is awesome.

Arguing isn't a necessarily a breakdown in communication, but rather a form of it, a clash of different opinions trying to work itself out. A mutual respect is imperative, though.
I understand that I will have fights with my future wife but I also understand how to deal with them, also. In a way, I almost look forward to them, and the hot, hot make-up sex that follows.