Caring for your Introvert
Caring for your Introvert
Do you know someone who needs hours alone every day? Who loves quiet conversations about feelings or ideas, and can give a dynamite presentation to a big audience, but seems awkward in groups and maladroit at small talk? Who has to be dragged to parties and then needs the rest of the day to recuperate? Who growls or scowls or grunts or winces when accosted with pleasantries by people who are just trying to be nice?

If so, do you tell this person he is "too serious," or ask if he is okay? Regard him as aloof, arrogant, rude? Redouble your efforts to draw him out?

If you answered yes to these questions, chances are that you have an introvert on your hands—and that you aren't caring for him properly. picked by DaftGretel 12 months ago
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 rambler
12 months ago
Extroverts therefore dominate public life. This is a pity. If we introverts ran the world, it would no doubt be a calmer, saner, more peaceful sort of place. As Coolidge is supposed to have said, "Don't you know that four fifths of all our troubles in this life would disappear if we would just sit down and keep still?"
True wisdom.

Of course I am an introvert too, I can only behave so extrovertly from behind the anonimity of my laptop keyboard. (My wife doesn't necessarily agree, she thinks I talk too much sometimes. And too little at other times. Maybe I'm sort of bipolar?)
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 subobisi...
12 months ago
I am also an introvert.
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 Bornbad
12 months ago
« subobisis : I am also an introvert.
Not on the keyboard.
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 subobisi...
12 months ago
« Bornbad : Not on the keyboard.
I noticed that too.

that's weird right?
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 rambler
12 months ago
Behind the screen of anonimity provided by our keyboards, the "inner extrovert" in all of us feels safe to escape and roam in the plimespace...
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 Bornbad
12 months ago
« rambler : Behind the screen of anonimity provided by our keyboards, the "inner extrovert" in all of us feels safe to escape and roam in the plimespace...
Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain...
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 dollylla...
12 months ago
« rambler : Behind the screen of anonimity provided by our keyboards, the "inner extrovert" in all of us feels safe to escape and roam in the plimespace...
Expressed beautifully. I took the Myers-Briggs test and am, accordingly, an introvert. I wondered how I could feel so free to speak out on the computer.

I'm ok in small groups, for a little while. I hate crowds and anywhere I have to make small talk.

An ex-boyfriend said I had low self-esteem. I couldn't figure it out, now I know it's because I hated being the center of attention and he loved it.
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 cheeselo...
12 months ago
i'm an introvert too.

with regard to the whole writing/introvert discussion - i would bet that most authors out there are introverts.
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 radio
12 months ago
Also an introvert. Nice to know there are others around.
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 Bornbad
12 months ago
Look at my penis!
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 gratheo
12 months ago
« rambler : Behind the screen of anonimity provided by our keyboards, the "inner extrovert" in all of us feels safe to escape and roam in the plimespace...
Couldn't agree more. The internet is a place where I can truly express myself to a degree far more than I'd be able to normally. Then again, as an introvert with a touch of Asperger's, I'm not very social anyhow.
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 teresag
12 months ago
I've always turned out an introvert in tests, and others do say so about me. But it depends a lot upon the circumstances. E.g., I want to dance when we see a show, but my husband refuses.
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 Elhoopso
12 months ago
"For one thing, extroverts are overrepresented in politics, a profession in which only the garrulous are really comfortable. Look at George W. Bush. Look at Bill Clinton. They seem to come fully to life only around other people."

how does he know that? is he hiding in there rooms when there alone documenting there behaviour?
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 eljay
12 months ago
I am introvert, and my hubby is an extrovert. He loves to talk. I'm not saying I don't, I just am not at all good with small talk. and I need that little bit of down time. As for internet, it is great as many of you have said. I love it here. :D
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 Galoot
12 months ago
« dollyllama : I'm ok in small groups, for a little while. I hate crowds and anywhere I have to make small talk.
What I hate are chatterers, people who insist on yapping, people who are uncomfortable with lingering silences. Shut up! Enjoy the peaceful drive or the lapping waves or the breeze through the leaves and stop yakking. I don't need to be entertained, and you don't need to be "on" all the time. (Not you, dolly. The generic "you.")

I don't know if I'm an introvert or just an a*****e. Either way, just shut up.

/puts ear plugs back in
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 Alton
12 months ago
Good lord this is so true. I'm an introvert, and my fiancee is an extrovert, and she just doesn't understand. I understand perfectly that she needs to go out and mingle with people to energize, but she just thinks I'm being stuffy and a hermit cause I want to stay home.

After 8 years, she stills thinks she can get me to come out my shell. That I just need to get out more. I tell her that would drive me to insanity.

Not quite sure if she doesn't understand that, or is hoping I'm correct.
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 imnotyoo
12 months ago
My boyfriend and I are both introverts. It's great; :)

I go out to socialize every once in a while. My friends have gotten use to seeing me every couple of months for the past few years and they seem fine with that.
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 stinkobi...
12 months ago
« eljay : I am introvert, and my hubby is an extrovert.
Same with me. And, chatterers annoy me too. I guess because I'm no good at it. I also think I'm a bit introverted on the internet. Is that possible?
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 grandmab...
12 months ago
Shhhh.... I need a moment!
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 AutumnLo...
12 months ago
I'm an introvert.
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