I'm sleeping with a married woman who has three kids.

Married as in not separated but married living with hubby?

*rolls eyes*

Uh, his wife yeh? I totally knew that.

Hey, look over here...



*runs from thread*

Taking on responsibility for a child that doesn't belong to you is a huge decision, and not one to be taken lightly. Many factors have to be considered (including whether or not you're in a position to parent a child, differences in parenting style, the possible future involvement/wishes of the father, etc.).

If you can pull it off, go for it. Just be mindful of the fact that if it doesn't work out, you'll be hurting two people instead of just one.

I need some advice.

I`ve just been offered the chance to move to central Mexico (Oaxaca, a place I know and love), but my GF is going to break out into her `If you leave me life won`t be worth living anymore so I`m going to kill myself` tantrum and eat a handful of her depression medication..if I tell her. (It`s happened on multiple occasions) I really don`t want to deal with that, but I don`t want to just cut out on her either.

My mind is made up and I`m going to go. I`ll be leaving here on monday or tuesday. But how should I handle this situation with this soon-to-be brokenhearted, depressed, somewhat suicidal girl?

Tell her that you love her and that if life really wouldn't be worth living without you she should come with.
EDIT but only if you want her to come with EDIT

She would love that, but I`m afraid to say that I no longer have the feelings I once had for her. Her previous `suicidal` episodes were results of botched break-up attempts. I don`t like seeing her in a state like that, so I end up staying. In some ways I`m being taken advantage of in that way, but I`m going to bring that to an end in a few days.

Basically, either I tell her I`m going(and deal with the s**tstorm) or I leave a note and go quietly. Her coming is not an option.

Ouch. Well, you aren't responsible for keeping someone from committing suicide. That's a BS tactic, and if she's going to use, so be it. My guess is she doesn't want to die that badly.

Having gone through it already with her, I'd vote for the note and go quietly. f**k it.

Don't allow her to manipulate and control you. You are not responsible for your girlfriend's emotional well-being.

Notify her friends and family (even her doctor or therapist) of your intentions and ask them to look after her in your absence.

In my opinion, you owe it to her to tell her to her face what your plan is. But do bear in mind that she is solely responsible for her reaction, not you.

I had already planned on telling her mother. She won`t be happy about it either, but she`s wiser and more than rational than her daughter so she will understand. A friend from out of town happens to be staying here for a couple weeks, so that should help too.

She's manipulating you. Don't let that happen. If you no longer have feelings for her, then just tell her the truth and ride off into the sunset. How she deals with that is HER baggage. On a side note, people who repeatedly threaten to kill themselves very rarely actually do so. They're just using it as a manipulative weapon (see above).

Totally agree with this, and most of the replies. You're not responsible for her decisions.

I would also leave a note and go, just because, if she's blackmailed you into staying before, maybe she could do it again? I'd just want to be sure that I wouldn't give in and agree to her coming or something.

Thanks fellas, you`ve been a lot of help.

I'm taking the wife to see John Mayer on Saturday and my body is a wonderland... YAY!

I just bought the Jenny Saville art book. It was 50 bucks and I dont have 50 bucks to spend but I got it anyways cause she's my f**king idol omg run on sentences are fun but not really ok i'll stop now.

*breathes*

I LOVE THIS BOOK.

I'll bet some of you resist posting because you don't want your post to be on the bottom of the page so you save your post or witty comment till some other suckers put the last 2 or 3 on then you post your thinking it will get seen by more people and get you more votes. Karma Whores! I have something cool but I'm gonna save it! I'll bet there have even been some "double posts" because of it.
I've honestly never even thought of this till just now.
If you've done it fess up now and we will forgive you.

o.o
You are a weird little man.

I am not!

My evil plan worked! Top of the page! Mwa Ha HA!
edit: Boy do I feel silly now.