<1>Posted: 1 month ago by ElHoopso: I actually just proposed to my now fiance only 5 days ago.
I took her out to nice restaurant for dinner and Gold Class movies for her birthday. after the second trailer a video that I had edited played on the big screen with a montage of footage and photo's of us from the last two years. of course ending in the words "Will You Marry Me"
She said yes :) Score: [-] 359 [+]. Posted: 1 month ago by pocksucket: So given the recent theme of sexual equality (or lack thereof) that has been circulating on Plime these last few days, does anyone see it as an issue that all ten of these proposals were made by men?
Is proposing something that only a man can do (assuming that we're not talking about a same sex couple here)?
If so, why? Score: [-] 110 [+]. Posted: 1 month ago by 2manyusernames:
Score: [-] 54 [+]. Posted: 1 month ago by chez: numbers 7 and 10 <3<3<3 Score: [-] 0 [+]. Posted: 1 month ago by thatweddingguy: Awesome proposals in here- I had heard of a few, but not all of them.
Thanks for posting this. Score: [-] 11 [+]. Posted: 1 month ago by lynxears:
«pocksucket : Is proposing something that only a man can do (assuming that we're not talking about a same sex couple here)?
If so, why?
There's no real reason it has to be from a man, but this is an older tradition and, personally, I think it's a case of picking your battles. If it makes the couple happy, good for them.
And I bet a major reason no woman-proposer is on the list is because even the basic act of her proposal is considered "surprising."
...I like the umbrella one. Cute. :) Score: [-] 75 [+]. Posted: 1 month ago by pocksucket:
«lynxears : There's no real reason it has to be from a man, but this is an older tradition and, personally, I think it's a case of picking your battles.
Interesting that you'd immediately go for a word like "battle" here.
Proposals and their natural extension marriage really should not be, despite what Pat Benatar would have you believe, a battlefield.
If it makes the couple happy, good for them.
And I bet a major reason no woman-proposer is on the list is because even the basic act of her proposal is considered "surprising."
That's pretty much answering my question with the pretext of the question.
Why is it "surprising"?
(and I'm not looking for someone to say "because it's a rarity").
...I like the umbrella one. Cute. :)
Score: [-] 45 [+]. Posted: 1 month ago by lynxears:
«pocksucket:Interesting that you'd immediately go for a word like "battle" here.
"Pick your battles" is an idiom. I meant: Not worth arguing about. In other words, I don't think you'll see a lot of feminists arguing that women should be the proposers...there are more important things to deal with; like making it easier for men to take their spouse's name.
Why is it "surprising"?
(and I'm not looking for someone to say "because it's a rarity").
Well, that's the answer anyway, even if you don't want it. It's "acting in defiance of conventional traditions," if you'd prefer. Score: [-] 0 [+]. Posted: 1 month ago by Marli: If a couple is actually in love and on the same page, it doesn't matter who proposes. My husband asked me to marry him at 2 in the morning when he got home from work and woke me up as he came to bed. It doesn't matter how it's done/who does it. At least not to me. I don't think he would have cared if it had been me who asked him that night. Score: [-] 178 [+]. Posted: 1 month ago by pocksucket:
«lynxears : "Pick your battles" is an idiom. I meant: Not worth arguing about.
Well, that's the answer anyway, even if you don't want it. It's "acting in defiance of conventional traditions," if you'd prefer.
It's no answer at all, it just restates the question.
Why is it the conventional tradition?
Is it the conventional tradition?
In my own personal experience there has only been one proposal of marriage involving me and another person and that was made to me. And she was a woman. A limited sample set, I know, but from that I'd conclude that women do propose.
So is the answer really that women are less given to elaborate gestures?
(this is directed to all who have experience of or opinions on the matter) Score: [-] 0 [+]. Posted: 1 month ago by Marli:
«pocksucket : So is the answer really that women are less given to elaborate gestures?
I think men are probably more pressured to do the big elaborate gesture. Score: [-] 171 [+]. Posted: 1 month ago by KerOBeros32:
«pocksucket:It's no answer at all, it just restates the question.
Why is it the conventional tradition?
Is it the conventional tradition?
In my own personal experience there has only been one proposal of marriage involving me and another person and that was made to me. And she was a woman. A limited sample set, I know, but from that I'd conclude that women do propose.
So is the answer really that women are less given to elaborate gestures?
(this is directed to all who have experience of or opinions on the matter)
Once, I had been the one to propose to a guy. It took him so by surprise that I am not sure that he said yes because he felt the same way or if he wanted to brag to his buddies that a woman had proposed to him...
The relationship fell apart... I am not into mamma's boys anyways...
That was before I met my husband... Score: [-] 90 [+]. Posted: 1 month ago by gammerus:
«ElHoopso : I actually just proposed to my now fiance only 5 days ago.
I took her out to nice restaurant for dinner and Gold Class movies for her birthday. after the second trailer a video that I had edited played on the big screen with a montage of footage and photo's of us from the last two years. of course ending in the words "Will You Marry Me"
She said yes :)
I've always wondered how much those rental blocks were. Score: [-] 0 [+]. Posted: 1 month ago by pocksucket:
«KerOBeros32:Once, I had been the one to propose to a guy. It took him so by surprise that I am not sure that he said yes because he felt the same way or
I turned her down because I didn't want to marry her (seemed like a good reason to me).
This only encouraged her to more enthusiasm (but no expansive gestures - although given her success rate I can understand that).
if he wanted to brag to his buddies that a woman had proposed to him...
I mention it only for illustrative purposes - of course you knew that.
The relationship fell apart...
Same here
I am not into mamma's boys anyways...
Same here
That was before I met my husband...
Hurrah for happy endings - did he propose to you?
(actually just a straight out question, nothing to do with the male:female proposal ratio) Score: [-] 34 [+]. Posted: 1 month ago by KerOBeros32:
«pocksucket : I turned her down because I didn't want to marry her (seemed like a good reason to me).
This only encouraged her to more enthusiasm (but no expansive gestures - although given her success rate I can understand that).
I mention it only for illustrative purposes - of course you knew that.
Same here
Same here
Hurrah for happy endings - did he propose to you?
(actually just a straight out question, nothing to do with the male:female proposal ratio)
He actually did propose after overtly expressing his (and my) mutual hatred for the Hallmark holiday that is Valentine's Day...
Caught me by surprise when he actually proposed ON Valentine's day...
That had been after 2-4 years on and off. Just seemed to fit...
None of my friends would put it past me to actually propose to a guy, if I felt it is right and after just casually talking about it for a while...
I do give my husband flowers once in a while... just because... Score: [-] 57 [+]. Posted: 1 month ago by choco:
«Marli : If a couple is actually in love and on the same page, it doesn't matter who proposes. It doesn't matter how it's done/who does it.
Totally agree with you here. I brought up getting married to my husband and by the time we were, it was just a natural progression of the relationship. It's nice to switch things up once in a while ;) Plus my hubby is a *huge* procrastinator and drags his feet, so I prob. would have ended up planning the "surprise" proposal myself ahahah Score: [-] 53 [+]. Posted: 1 month ago by Elhoopso:
«gammerus : I've always wondered how much those rental blocks were.
Rental Blocks?
if your asking how much it cost to have it played, just few phone calls and a $100 Score: [-] 0 [+]. Posted: 1 month ago by 00markanderson: very interesting ,nice wedding proposals.. Score: [-] -56 [+]. Posted: 1 month ago by Bennuendo: The computer programmer probably has his wife hooked on that game now.. she's probably playing it everyday hoping to win something new. Score: [-] 0 [+]. <1>