so sorry bout leaving you hanging last time with no details but my mom has recently gone insane and firgured not letting me on the computer for extended periods of time would help me. yea soo parents are crazy.anyways



Its a girl
her name starts with a "S"
she is very understanding in all ways.
she lives near me.
shes blonde and short and cute and amazing.

but there is a bad thing............
my mom ,as i said before, has gone insane and thinks that keeping us apart will do good for both of us but we are hardly together.
my mom feels that im letting her
run my life becuase i let her
straighten my hair and i went to a wedding with her. and i guess that means were are getting really serious and she tthinks im going to have sex and get her pregent(but im kinda scared to have sex for my first time, mostly because of awkwardness and having no clue of what to do)

Hi beany11. I'm a girl and my name starts with "S". I've very understanding in all ways.
I don't know where you live.
I'm blonde, 5'5", cute and amazing. I'm also alot older than you.

Serious isn't straightening your hair and going to a wedding.

Sex is.

I don't know how old you are, and how old your "S" love is.

Sex is serious. You and her need to be responsible about it.

Maybe it's too soon in your relationship. Waiting can be fun. The anticipaton...Maybe it's not the right thing now. Maybe it is. There are a lot of things you can do before you do "it". Think about it.

Your first time should be very very special. This may not be the right time. If it is, just be careful and take precautions. And...enjoy it for all it is!

Some advice from an old broad. {{{beany11}}}

just remember buddy, sex doesn't mean love.

Beany11, your ma's just worried about you, that's all.

The best, most efficient way to get the privacy/trust you want? Prove to her that you really are mature and capable of acting like a responsible adult. Seriously, it works wonders.

I'd say first off to be honest (to an extent, of course!) about your relationship with Mademoiselle "S"; I know my parents were WAY more trusting than I'd ever thought once I started telling them a little about who I was dating at the time and what we were up to. They (eventually) seemed satisfied that I'd tell them, and they never bugged me about my bf at the time.

Also, try hard in school and help out around the house. It's good for you anyway, and on top of demonstrating that you are responsible and mature, it can be used as leverage in some circumstances: Why can't I go out tonight? I got 88% on my science paper and I've already done the dishes and tidied the study?


As for the bit with the girl, just remember that no-one ever seems to regret taking things too slow, especially if it's the first time (for love and sex) for you. Subobsis hit the hammer on the head there - sex =/ love.

I'm a dad with two boys (15 & 20yrs old). I worry all the time. It's natural to want to protect your offspring. Parents are weird, I have two. But as misguided as we may seem, we only want the best for our children. Just take your time and use your brain.

You'll have to show you're mature by using reason; whatever you do don't go for the classic teen 'You don't understand me' and go off in a huff and sulk, you'll just prove her point.
Parents are crazy, but only because they worry about you, if you talk it through with her calmly in a reasonable way (i.e. no attitude or accusations etc.) she'll eventually come around. I'm sure full disclosure as suggested by tundramonkey would also help a lot.
(I'd also suggest laying off the computer usage without complaining (and even without her prompting you), again in order to show that you'll respect her wishes and can be mature.)

im glad all my kids are under the age of 5, i aven't got a chance to get crazy yet.

also, be good to your parents, they love, and want the best for you. Be honest and responsible, like everyone else said. if you really can't, then you aren't ready for a "serious" relationship.

My advice on women:

Don't get into a fight with her, and if you do, don't give here a gift and say "I'm sorry if I offended you, but I am still mad at you," and then walk away. That doesn't work out well. God, that doesn't work well.

All the above advice is also true.

Do you need me to come beat your parents up for you? Cause I'll do it. No one will keep you from Plime. NOBODY.

So much good advice from such a diverse group of people, wow!

I'm the father of 3 sons, have given them all advice at times, sometimes accepted, sometimes not.

Couldn't say it better than all the above stuff, though.

I hope beany11 is good at taking advice. Unfortunately hormones and advice sometimes clash...

A REAL spartan doesn't take advice.

SEIZE THE DAY!

Want to have your way with her? Slip a roofie in her drink.

Don't really do this. I'm just being an ass.

Seriously though, as a parent, the only advice I can offer you is to beware her father. He is secretely looking for a way to kill you off. Honestly. That's his little girl.

Also, try to keep a cool head (with your parents and with your girl), especially in arguments.

its true. Don't listen to her or him about this. He wants you dead.