Manners and Etiquette - Q&A (or "There's spinach in your teeth") : XML WIDGEThttp://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/low.mtmYou can use this XML spec to create a desktop widget or other application (i.e. Flash visualization). Please share it with us in our forum and we'll link it here!en-us215222http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q32<![CDATA[tundramonkey @ 3/5/2008 4:40:07 PM]]>«germz : Butt, on the issue of women garments, i do not believe it is right for a man to tell her whats there or not.
That means - You were looking, and you're not suppose to get caught looking. Dont incriminate yourself lol.Eh, something obvious like a white paper or string on black pants will catch anyone's eye, whether they meant to look or not.
And like it or not, if a woman has something less obvious but still embarassing stuck to her bum, there's a much lower chance another woman will look and see it. So long as nobody touches or comments any further than 'you've got something on your pants', I don't think it's a problem.]]>3/5/2008 4:40:07 PM2008-03-05T16:40:07+01:00215219http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q31<![CDATA[ImagiCreator @ 3/5/2008 4:33:50 PM]]>«germz : Butt, on the issue of women garments, i do not believe it is right for a man to tell her whats there or not.
That means - You were looking, and you're not suppose to get caught looking. Dont incriminate yourself lol.I usually don't mind the looking (I am so far beyond "used to it", on some level I'll probably start to miss it once I'm old and saggy in all the right/wrong places). So if there's something weird stuck to my butt, by all means please do point it out.
But do not - under any circumstances - touch it. You're risking loss of limb unless you're a personal friend of mine.]]>3/5/2008 4:33:50 PM2008-03-05T16:33:50+01:00215174http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q30<![CDATA[moe @ 3/5/2008 3:32:16 PM]]> Do actually say "Hey Frank, I notice that you have a banana in your ear."?]]>3/5/2008 3:32:16 PM2008-03-05T15:32:16+01:00215173http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q29<![CDATA[Pocksucket @ 3/5/2008 3:27:29 PM]]>«Jerry520 : Well, if someone had an ear tumor, I'd point it out. That's kind of important, I'd think.I think if it got to the point where it was visible, they'd know already, so I'm not sure if I'd draw attention to it.
Some people can be a bit touchy about these things, and they might be a bit sensitive. Unlike a spot of pit-stink, it's not something that can be fixed with a quick spray.]]>3/5/2008 3:27:29 PM2008-03-05T15:27:29+01:00215166http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q28<![CDATA[dAvBOb @ 3/5/2008 3:22:35 PM]]>«Jerry520 : Well, if someone had an ear tumor, I'd point it out. That's kind of important, I'd think.They might not hear you though.]]>3/5/2008 3:22:35 PM2008-03-05T15:22:35+01:00215165http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q27<![CDATA[Pocksucket @ 3/5/2008 3:22:11 PM]]>«dAvBOb : We keep air freshener in the office to spray when the customers leave.Yep - we used to do that. But in some, more extreme cases, it would have been nice to be able to say "Y'know, we could all avoid a lot of unpleasantness if you'd just wipe when you're done. Or use a bidet. Or something. You smell of poop."
For long term protection we did used to have one of those fragranced oil burner things. That was pretty effective.]]>3/5/2008 3:22:11 PM2008-03-05T15:22:11+01:00215160http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q26<![CDATA[Jerry520 @ 3/5/2008 3:18:02 PM]]>«Pocksucket : Are you saying you would point that out to someone?Well, if someone had an ear tumor, I'd point it out. That's kind of important, I'd think.]]>3/5/2008 3:18:02 PM2008-03-05T15:18:02+01:00215159http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q25<![CDATA[dAvBOb @ 3/5/2008 3:16:30 PM]]>«Pocksucket : That is a good plan.
It's just a shame I never found any way of extending it to customers too. We keep air freshener in the office to spray when the customers leave.]]>3/5/2008 3:16:30 PM2008-03-05T15:16:30+01:00215153http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q24<![CDATA[germz @ 3/5/2008 3:14:09 PM]]> That means - You were looking, and you're not suppose to get caught looking. Dont incriminate yourself lol.]]>3/5/2008 3:14:09 PM2008-03-05T15:14:09+01:00215150http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q23<![CDATA[germz @ 3/5/2008 3:12:29 PM]]> A.) Continued to walk around talking to people without knowing something is in their teeth. And being embarassed when at the end of the day that you had something in your teeth all day.
or
B.) Told that somethings in your teeth, a moment of embarassment - Take it out, and feel glad that you don't have something in your teeth without noticing, could have been there all day.
I'd rather be told B.]]>3/5/2008 3:12:29 PM2008-03-05T15:12:29+01:00215149http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q22<![CDATA[Pocksucket @ 3/5/2008 3:09:45 PM]]>«badbud : UmmmmmmmAre you saying you would point that out to someone?]]>3/5/2008 3:09:45 PM2008-03-05T15:09:45+01:00215146http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q21<![CDATA[Pocksucket @ 3/5/2008 3:08:58 PM]]>«dAvBOb : I had a similar thing at work. My answer to it all was to grab some petty cash go to the shop and get deodorant and mouthwash then come back in and tell everyone that it was free to use and I'd leave it in the bathroom for whoever needed it. I then went off and had a quick spray myself and gargled some mouthwash even though I wasn't the one that needed it.
Few days later the problem was gone and we still keep deodorant and mouthwash handy and it is used by many members of staff.That is a good plan.
It's just a shame I never found any way of extending it to customers too.]]>3/5/2008 3:08:58 PM2008-03-05T15:08:58+01:00215139http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q20<![CDATA[dAvBOb @ 3/5/2008 3:00:49 PM]]>«Pocksucket :
Back when I used to work in a shop we had a little pact between us about smells - from time to time everyone gets a little stink going on and we decided that it was a worse crime to not say anything than to underestimate the amount of deodorant needed on any given day. I had a similar thing at work. My answer to it all was to grab some petty cash go to the shop and get deodorant and mouthwash then come back in and tell everyone that it was free to use and I'd leave it in the bathroom for whoever needed it. I then went off and had a quick spray myself and gargled some mouthwash even though I wasn't the one that needed it.
Few days later the problem was gone and we still keep deodorant and mouthwash handy and it is used by many members of staff.]]>3/5/2008 3:00:49 PM2008-03-05T15:00:49+01:00215138http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q19<![CDATA[HMTKSteve @ 3/5/2008 2:59:25 PM]]>«xiatethebish : How would someone not know they have a rather large pimple on the tip of their nose?What if they were blind?]]>3/5/2008 2:59:25 PM2008-03-05T14:59:25+01:00215137http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q18<![CDATA[badbud @ 3/5/2008 2:58:40 PM]]>«Pocksucket You'd not say to someone "Hey, you've got a tumour on your ear." Ummmmmmm]]>3/5/2008 2:58:40 PM2008-03-05T14:58:40+01:00215132http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q17<![CDATA[Pocksucket @ 3/5/2008 2:56:33 PM]]>«haven : Spinach in Teeth = Yes Paper/Tape on Pants = Yes Pimple on Nose = No
I don't know why.
The pimple is a different case. It's a medical thing really. You'd not say to someone "Hey, you've got a tumour on your ear." And with a pimple, chances are they'd know already.
In general, it's worth saying something.
Times when it's been me, yes, it's embarrassing for a moment, possibly even awkward, but it's a fleeting thing, and certainly better than that feeling of discovering at the end of the day and thinking "Holy crapola! Has that been hanging out all day long?"
Back when I used to work in a shop we had a little pact between us about smells - from time to time everyone gets a little stink going on and we decided that it was a worse crime to not say anything than to underestimate the amount of deodorant needed on any given day.]]>3/5/2008 2:56:33 PM2008-03-05T14:56:33+01:00215116http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q16<![CDATA[xiatethebish @ 3/5/2008 2:42:53 PM]]>3/5/2008 2:42:53 PM2008-03-05T14:42:53+01:00215114http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q15<![CDATA[eLJay @ 3/5/2008 2:40:19 PM]]> To the kid taking lunch orders with a pimple on the end of nose, when he asks "What'll it be?" He responds with "A pock mark, eventually!"
When exiting the elevator crowded with people he says, "It was meeeeeeeee!"]]>3/5/2008 2:40:19 PM2008-03-05T14:40:19+01:00215086http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q14<![CDATA[davbob @ 3/5/2008 2:11:19 PM]]> One of my other friends was true to his word and told her the next time she bleached her upper lip hair try to not make it go green.
And Yes I think people should be told of things stuck to them, spinach, stray nose hairs etc. If noone tells you then you feel even worse when you do actually notice.]]>3/5/2008 2:11:19 PM2008-03-05T14:11:19+01:00215084http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q13<![CDATA[maven @ 3/5/2008 2:08:23 PM]]> Shouting down the hallway "Hey, you have a paper trail" will not be appreciated unless aliens are invading and targetting those with tp on their shoe exclusively.]]>3/5/2008 2:08:23 PM2008-03-05T14:08:23+01:00215054http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q12<![CDATA[haven @ 3/5/2008 1:44:31 PM]]>Paper/Tape on Pants = Yes Pimple on Nose = No
I don't know why.
Just don't make a big deal out of it. Don't over think it. Just, "Hey, you have something on the back of your pants. Thought you should know." You will likely just get a thanks in return.]]>3/5/2008 1:44:31 PM2008-03-05T13:44:31+01:00215037http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q11<![CDATA[donteatpoop @ 3/5/2008 1:27:09 PM]]>3/5/2008 1:27:09 PM2008-03-05T13:27:09+01:00214914http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q10<![CDATA[eLJay @ 3/5/2008 10:58:52 AM]]>3/5/2008 10:58:52 AM2008-03-05T10:58:52+01:00214889http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q9<![CDATA[tundramonkey @ 3/5/2008 10:26:47 AM]]> Then again, I work with a few women who would be extremely offended if a male told them there was something stuck to their inner thigh [you should have seen the fuss one of them made when our boss told her she had tape on her bum. It's not harassment, it's courtesy!].
An approach like tom's would be best, I think.]]>3/5/2008 10:26:47 AM2008-03-05T10:26:47+01:00214886http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q8<![CDATA[MandolinOrange @ 3/5/2008 10:22:48 AM]]>3/5/2008 10:22:48 AM2008-03-05T10:22:48+01:00214885http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q7<![CDATA[2manyusernames @ 3/5/2008 10:21:19 AM]]> I came so close to making a comment, asking her how much she liked vanilla or something to that effect, but thought better of it. I guess I am getting old.]]>3/5/2008 10:21:19 AM2008-03-05T10:21:19+01:00214883http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q6<![CDATA[tomphoolry @ 3/5/2008 10:16:47 AM]]>«icepigs : Anyway - I didn't say anything about the object - but it's positioned where people behind her will see it, but she won't even when she's sitting down.
Should I have said something, or was I right to just keep quiet?Does she know you well enough to know your name? Do you know her name? If so, then you could have just said "Hey (insert name), good morning. I just thought you should know that there may be something stuck to your pants and that you probably didn't want to walk around all day like that. I hope you don't mind me telling you."
If you know each other by sight, but maybe not by name, find someone you know in her department and tell them so that they could pass it along, preferably another female.]]>3/5/2008 10:16:47 AM2008-03-05T10:16:47+01:00214881http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q5<![CDATA[icepigs @ 3/5/2008 10:15:01 AM]]>«trushafty38 : What was this white object? Was it a piece of lint? or an extra pair of panties?It looked a little like the wrapper of a soda straw...might have been string. I'm not sure. I didn't get a good look.]]>3/5/2008 10:15:01 AM2008-03-05T10:15:01+01:00214877http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q4<![CDATA[trushafty38 @ 3/5/2008 10:07:41 AM]]>«icepigs : I noticed she has something stuck to her pants...on the inside of her thigh. She was wearing black and the object was white. What was this white object? Was it a piece of lint? or an extra pair of panties?
Either way if your not married you should have talked to her.
And if you are married WHY THE HELL ARE YOU STARRING AT HER BUTT!?! hahha kidding]]>3/5/2008 10:07:41 AM2008-03-05T10:07:41+01:00214871http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q3<![CDATA[badbud @ 3/5/2008 9:57:15 AM]]> Having a guy tell me there was something on my butt, or thigh, or whatever, seems some how wrong and/or weird and/or creepy. Does that qualify as gender bias?]]>3/5/2008 9:57:15 AM2008-03-05T09:57:15+01:00214863http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q2<![CDATA[icepigs @ 3/5/2008 9:40:25 AM]]> Now, I don't know this woman very well as we work in different departments, but our paths do cross occasionally as we work on the same floor and our departments do work together.
Anyway - I didn't say anything about the object - but it's positioned where people behind her will see it, but she won't even when she's sitting down.
Should I have said something, or was I right to just keep quiet?]]>3/5/2008 9:40:25 AM2008-03-05T09:40:25+01:00
Manners and Etiquette - Q&A (or "There's spinach in your teeth")
3521http://www.plime.com/world/f/3521/1/xml_widget.rss#q1<![CDATA[icepigs @ 3/5/2008 9:39:25 AM]]> I hold the door open for people, say "thank you" to people who do things for me, and generally be an all-around nice guy.
However, there are times when I don't know which option to take - that's why I've created this thread...so we as Plimates can help clear up some of the gray areas.
For example - Do you tell a stranger that there is spinach in their teeth? Would you tell a co-worker that they have a rather large pimple on the end of their nose?
These are things I would like to discuss with you and hopefully we can come up with a solution that will fit most occasions.
So, feel free to ask questions OR give answers. It's all about helping out!]]>3/5/2008 9:39:25 AM2008-03-05T09:39:25+01:00